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戴尔·卡耐基20 shì jì zuì wěi dà de xīn líng dǎo shī， měi guó rén dài 'ěr · kǎ nài jī lì yòng dà liàng pǔ tōng rén bù duàn nǔ lì qǔ dé chéng gōng de gù shì， tōng guò yǎn jiǎng hé shū huàn qǐ wú shù xiàn rù mí wǎng zhě de dǒu zhì , jī lì tā men qǔ dé huī huáng de chéng gōng。 dài 'ěr · kǎ nài jī shì 20 shì jì zuì wěi dà de chéng gōng xué dà shī， měi guó xiàn dài chéng rén jiào yù zhī fù。 kǎ nài jī zài shí jiàn de jī chǔ shàng zhuàn xiě 'ér chéng de zhù zuò， shì 20 shì jì zuì chàng xiāo de chéng gōng lì zhì jīng diǎn。 kǎ nài jī zhù yào dài biǎo zuò yòu：《 gōu tōng de yì shù》、《 rén xìng de ruò diǎn》、《 rén xìng de yōu diǎn》、《 měi hǎo de rén shēng》、《 kuài lè de rén shēng》、《 wěi dà de rén wù》 hé《 rén xìng de guāng huī》。 zhè xiē shū chū bǎn zhī hòu， lì jí fēngmǐ quán qiú， xiān hòu bèi yì chéng jǐ shí zhǒng wén zì， bèi yù wéi “ rén lèi chū bǎn shǐ shàng de qí jì ”。 tā yī shēng zhì lì yú rén xìng wèn tí de yán jiū， yùn yòng xīn lǐ xué hé shè huì xué zhī shí， duì rén lèi gòng tóng de xīn lǐ tè diǎn， jìn xíng tàn suǒ hé fēn zhé， kāi chuàng bìng fā zhǎn chū yī tào dú tè de róng yǎn jiǎng、 tuī xiāo、 wéi rén chǔshì、 zhì néng kāi fā yú yī tǐ de chéng rén jiào yù fāng shì。 jiē shòu kǎ nài jī de yòu shè huì gè jiè rén shì， qí zhōng bù fá jūn zhèng yào yuán， shèn zhì bāo kuò jǐ wèi měi guó zǒng tǒng。 qiān qiān wàn wàn de rén cóng kǎ nài jī de jiào yù zhōng huò yì fěi qiǎn。
dài 'ěr · kǎ nài jī de shēng píng jiǎn jiè
dài 'ěr · kǎ nài jī chū shēng yú 1888 nián 11 yuè 24 rì， shì shì yú 1955 nián 11 yuè 1 rì， xiǎng nián 67 suì。 tā yī shēng jié guò liǎng cì hūn。 tā de dì yī rèn fū rén， shì fǎ guó de yī wèi nǚ bó jué， 1921 nián yǔ tā jié hūn， shí nián hòu lí yì。 tā de dì 'èr rèn fū rén yáo lè sī ． kǎ nài jī yú 1944 nián hé tā jié hūn， shì tā de mén tú hé shì yè de jì chéng rén， bìng gěi tā shēng yī nǚ hái， qǔ míng dān nà。
1888 nián 11 yuè 24 rì， dài 'ěr · kǎ nài jī dàn shēng yú mì sū lǐ zhōu mǎ lì wéi 'ěr fù jìn de yī gè xiǎo shì zhèn。 fù qīn jīng yíng yī gè xiǎo xiǎo de nóng chǎng。 jiā lǐ fēi cháng qióng， chī bù bǎo， chuān bù nuǎn。 yóu yú yíng yǎng bù liáng， xiǎo kǎ nài jī fēi cháng shòu xiǎo， què cháng zhe yī duì yǔ tóu bù bù hěn xiāngchèn de dà 'ěr duǒ。
kǎ nài jī shàng de xiǎo xué xiào míng hěn làng màn， jiào méi guī yuán， què fēi cháng jiǎn lòu， zhǐ yòu yī jiān jiào shì。 tā zài xué xiào kě bù shì yī gè tīng huà de jiā huǒ。 yīn wéi tiáopí dǎo dàn， gǎo 'è zuò jù， tā jǐ cì chā yī diǎn bèi xué xiào kāi chú。
tā nà shuāng yòu kuān yòu dà de 'ěr duǒ shì tóng xué men cháo nòng de duì xiàng。 yòu yī cì， bān shàng yī míng jiào shān mǔ · huái tè de dà nán hái yǔ kǎ nài jī fā shēng liǎo zhēng chǎo， kǎ nài jī shuō liǎo jǐ jù hěn kè bó de huà， huái tè bèi jī nù liǎo， biàn kǒnghè dào：“ zǒng yòu yī tiān， wǒ yào jiǎn duàn nǐ nà shuāng tǎo yàn de dà 'ěr duǒ。” tā xià huài liǎo， jǐ gè wǎn shàng dōubù gǎn shuì jué， hài pà zài zì jǐ jìn rù mèng xiāng yǐ hòu bèi huái tè jiǎn diào liǎo 'ěr duǒ。
dāng kǎ nài jī chéng míng yǐ hòu， réng rán méi yòu wàng jì shān mǔ · huái tè。 tā guī nà chū liǎo yī fān rén shēng zhé lǐ：“ yào xiǎng bié rén duì nǐ yǒu shàn， yào xiǎng yǔ tóng shì hé mù dì xiāng chù， chǔlǐ hǎo shàng xià jí guān xì， nà jiù jué bù néng qù chù dòng bié rén xīn líng de shāng bā。” kǎ nài jī hái fā xiàn， tā jù yòu yǔ shēng jù lái de yōu yù xìng gé。 tā céng xiàng péng yǒu qīng sù： fán nǎo bàn suí zhe wǒ de yī shēng。 wǒ yī zhí xiǎng nòng míng bái zì jǐ de yōu lǜ lái zì hé chù。 yòu yī tiān， wǒ bāng mǔ qīn zhāi qǔ yīng huā de zhǒng zǐ shí， tū rán kū qì qǐ lái。 mǔ qīn wèn：“ nǐ wèishénme kū？” wǒ biān kū biān dá：“ wǒ dān xīn zì jǐ huì bù huì xiàng zhè zhǒng zǐ yī yàng， bèi huó huó mái zài ní tǔ lǐ。” ér shí de wǒ， dān jīng shòu pà de shì qíng zhēn de bù shǎo： xià léi yǔ shí， dān xīn huì bù huì bèi léi dǎ sǐ； nián jǐng bù hǎo shí dān xīn yǐ hòu yòu méi yòu shí wù chōng jī； hái dān xīn sǐ hòu huì bù huì xià dì yù。 shāo dà yǐ hòu gèng jiā hú sī luàn xiǎng： xiǎng zì jǐ de yī zhe、 jǔ zhǐ huì bù huì bèi nǚ hái zǐ qǔ xiào， dān xīn méi yòu nǚ hái zǐ yuàn yì jià gěi wǒ。 dàn hòu lái wǒ fā xiàn， céng jīng shǐ wǒ fēi cháng dān xīn de nà xiē shì qíng， 99% dōuméi yòu fā shēng。”
yī gè rú cǐ méi yòu zì xìn， jīhū bèi gè zhǒng gè yàng mò míng qí miào de yōu lǜ chán rào de xiǎo huǒ zǐ， zuì zhōng chéng wéi gěi bié rén zì xìn、 ràng rén men lè guān de xīn lǐ jī lì dà shī， zhè zhōng jiān xū yào jīng lì duō shǎo mó lì， jiù kě xiǎng 'ér zhī liǎo。
kǎ nài jī 16 suì shí， bù dé bù zài zì jiā de nóng chǎng lǐ gān gèng duō de huó。 měi tiān zǎo chén， tā qí mǎ jìn chéng shàng xué。 fàng xué hòu biàn jí cōng cōng dì qí mǎ gǎn huí jiā lǐ， jǐ niú nǎi、 xiū jiǎn shù mù、 shōu shí cán tānɡ shèng fàn wèi zhū …… zài xué xiào lǐ， shòu ruò、 cāng bái díkǎ nài jī yǒng yuǎn chuānzhuó yī jiàn pò jiù 'ér bù hé shēn de jiā kè， yī fù shī hún luò bó de yàng zǐ。 yòu yī cì shàng shù xué kè shí， kǎ nài jī bèi lǎo shī jiào dào hēi bǎn qián jiě dá wèn tí。 tā gāng zǒu shàng jiǎng tái， jiù tīng jiàn shēn hòu bào fā chū yī zhèn hōng táng dà xiào。 xià kè hòu cái míng bái tóng xué men xiào huà tā de yuán yīn。 bān shàng yī míng dǎo dàn guǐ zuò zài tā bèi hòu， zài tā de pò jiā kè de lièfèng chù chā liǎo yī duǒ méi guī huā， hái zài bàng biān tiē liǎo yī zhāng zì tiáo， xiě zhe：“ wǒ 'ài nǐ， ruì dé · jié kè xiān shēng。” zài yīng yǔ zhōng， ruì dé · jié kè yǔ pò jiā kè shì xié yīn cí。 kǎ nài jī fēi cháng nán shòu。 huí jiā hòu tā duì mǔ qīn shuō：“ tóng xué men lǎo shì xiào huà wǒ chuān de pò yī fú， wǒ bù néng jí zhōng jīng lì tīng kè。” mā mā shuō dào：“ nǐ wèishénme bù xiǎng bàn fǎ ràng tā men yīn pèi fú nǐ 'ér zūn jìng nǐ ní？ bù bì shāng xīn， jīn nián qiū jì， wǒ yī dìng gěi nǐ mǎi tào xīn yī fú。” kǎ nài jī zài tóng nián shí dài shòu dào tā mǔ qīn hěn dà yǐng xiǎng。 mǔ qīn shēng xìng lè guān， bǎi zhé bù náo。 yī cì dà shuǐ zāi， hóng shuǐchōng chū liǎo hé dī， bǎ nóng chǎng de suǒ yòu nóng zuò wù chōng dé bù jiàn zōng yǐng。 fù qīn yòng jué wàng de shēng yīn hǎn dào：“ shàng dì， nǐ wèishénme lǎo shì hé wǒ guò bù qù？ wǒ shénme shí hòu cái néng zǒu chū kùn jìng！” ér mǔ qīn què shí fēn zhèn jìng， tā hēng chàng zhe gē， jiāng jiā yuán chóngxīn shōu shí hǎo。 mǔ qīn duì kǎ nài jī jì yú hòu wàng， yī zhí gǔ lì tā hǎohǎo dú shū， xī wàng tā jiāng lái zuò yī míng chuán jiào shì， huò zuò yī míng jiào yuán。
1904 nián， kǎ nài jī gāo zhōng bì yè hòu jiù dú yú mì sū lǐ zhōu huá lún sī bǎo zhōu lì shī fàn xué yuàn。 zhè shí， jiā lǐ yǐ bǎ nóng chǎng mài diào， qiān dào xué yuàn fù jìn。 kǎ nài jī fù dān bù qǐ shì zhèn shàng de shēng huó fèi yòng， jiù zhù zài jiā lǐ， měi tiān qí mǎ dào xué xiào qù shàng kè。 tā shì quán xiào 600 míng xué shēng zhōng wǔ liù gè zhù bù qǐ shì zhèn de xué shēng zhī yī。 tā suī rán dé dào quán 'é jiǎng xué jīn， dàn hái bì xū sì chù dǎ gōng， yǐ mí bǔ xué fèi de bù zú。
kǎ nài jī fā xiàn， xué yuàn biàn lùn huì jí yǎn shuō sài fēi cháng xī yǐn rén， yōu shèng zhě de míng zì bù dàn guǎng wéi rén zhī， ér qiě hái bèi shì wéi xué yuàn de yīng xióng rén wù。 zhè shì yī gè chéng míng hé chéng gōng de zuì hǎo jī huì。
dàn tā méi yòu yǎn shuō de tiān fù， cān jiā liǎo １ ２ cì bǐ sài， lǚ zhàn lǚ bài。 sān shí nián hòu， kǎ nài jī tán jí dì yī cì yǎn shuō shī bài shí， hái yǐ bàn kāi wán xiào de kǒu wěn shuō：“ shì de， suī rán wǒ méi yòu zhǎo chū jiù liè qiāng hé yǔ zhī xiāng lèi shìde zhì mìng dōng xī lái， dàn dāng shí wǒ de què xiǎng dào guò zì shā…… wǒ nà shí cái rèn shí dào zì jǐ shì hěn chàjìn de……” jīng lì shī bài hòu， kǎ nài jī fā fèn zhèn zuò， chóngxīn tiǎo zhàn zì wǒ。
1906 nián， dài 'ěr · kǎ nài jī yī piān yǐ《 tóng nián de jì yì》 wéi tí de yǎn shuō， huò dé liǎo lè bó dì qīng nián yǎn shuō jiā jiǎng。 zhè shì tā dì yī cì chéng gōng cháng shì， zhè fèn jiǎng gǎo zhì jīn hái cún zài wǎ lún sī bǎo zhōu lì shī fàn xué yuàn de xiào zhì lǐ。 zhè cì huò shèng， duì tā de yī shēng chǎn shēng liǎo fēi tóng xiǎo kě de yǐng xiǎng。
tā zài hòu lái de huí yì zhōng bù wú zì háo dì shuō：“ wǒ suī rán jīng lì liǎo 12 cì shī bài， dàn zuì hòu zhōng yú yíng dé liǎo biàn lùn bǐ sài。 gèng wéi jī lì wǒ de shì， wǒ xùn liàn chū lái de nán xué shēng yíng liǎo gōng zhòng yǎn shuō sài。 nǚ xué shēng yě huò dé liǎo lǎng dú bǐ sài de guànjūn。 cóng nà yī tiān qǐ， wǒ jiù zhī dào wǒ gāi zǒu zěn yàng de lù liǎo……” 1908 nián， kǎ nài jī réng jiù hěn pín qióng， dàn yǔ liǎng nián qián jìn rù shī fàn xué yuàn shí yǐ yòu tiān rǎng zhī bié liǎo。 tā chéng liǎo quán yuàn de fēng yún rén wù， zài gè zhǒng chǎng hé de yǎn jiǎng sài zhōng dà chū fēng tóu。 quán yuàn de shī shēng duì tā guā mù xiāng kàn； dàn tā bìng bù mǎn zú yú cǐ， tā kāi shǐ zǒu chū xué yuàn qù kuò dà zì jǐ yǎn jiǎng de yǐng xiǎng liǎo。
tā yuán xiān de mù biāo， shì xiǎng zài xué xiào lǐ huò dé xué wèi， bì yè hòu huí dào jiā xiāng de xué xiào lǐ qù jiāoshū。 dàn zài kuài bì yè de nà nián lǐ， tā fā xiàn tóng bān de yī gè tóng xué zài shǔ jiǎ wèiguó jì hán shòu xué xiào tuī xiāo hán shòu kè， měi zhōu suǒ dé de qián， bǐ tā fù qīn de xīn qín suǒ dé hái gāo chū sì bèi。 yīn cǐ， tā zài 1908 nián bì yè hòu， biàn gǎn dào guó jì hán shòu xué xiào zǒng bù suǒ zài dì de dān fó shì， shòu gù zuò liǎo yī míng tuī xiāo yuán， hòu lái tā yòu dào nán 'ào mǎ hā， wéi 'ā mó 'ěr gōng sī fàn mài huǒ tuǐ， féi zào hé zhū yóu。 tā de zhè gè tuī xiāo gōng zuò suī rán hěn chéng gōng， dàn zài 1911 nián， tā què dào niǔ yuē《 měi guó xì jù yì shù xué yuàn》 xué xí yǎn xì。 yī nián yǐ hòu， tā gǎn dào zì jǐ bìng bù jù bèi yǎn xì de tiān cái， yú shì yòu huí dào tuī xiāo de hángyè lǐ， wéi yī jiā qì chē gōng sī dāng tuī xiāo yuán。
dàn zhè xiē gōng zuò dōubù hé tā de lǐ xiǎng。 tā wéi méi yòu shí xiàn zài dà xué lǐ mèng xiǎng shēng huó， zhè bǐ zuàn qián gèng zhòng yào。 tā jué xīn
dài 'ěr · kǎ nài jī de dài biǎo zhù zuò
《 yǔ yán de tū pò》（ chū bǎn yú 1931 nián）
《 rén xìng de guāng huī》（ chū bǎn yú 1932 nián）
《 rén xìng de ruò diǎn》（ chū bǎn yú 1936 nián）
《 měi hǎo de rén shēng》（ chū bǎn yú 1936 nián）
《 wěi dà de rén wù》（ chū bǎn yú 1943 nián）
《 rén xìng de yōu diǎn》（ chū bǎn yú 1948 nián）
《 kuài lè de rén shēng》（ chū bǎn yú 1948 nián）
One of the core ideas in his books is that it is possible to change other people's behavior by changing one's reaction to them.
Biography
Born in 1888 in Maryville, Missouri, Carnegie was a poor farmer's boy, the second son of James William Carnagey (b. Indiana, February 1852 – living 1910) and wife Amanda Elizabeth Harbison (b. Missouri, February 1858 – living 1910). In his teens, though still having to get up at 4 a.m. every day to milk his parents' cows, he managed to obtain an education at the State Teacher's College in Warrensburg. His first job after college was selling correspondence courses to ranchers; then he moved on to selling bacon, soap and lard for Armour & Company. He was successful to the point of making his sales territory of South Omaha, Nebraska, the national leader for the firm.
After saving $500, Dale Carnegie quit sales in 1911 in order to pursue a lifelong dream of becoming a Chautauqua lecturer. He ended up instead attending the American Academy of Dramatic Arts in New York, but found little success as an actor, though it is written that he played the role of Dr. Hartley in a road show of Polly of the Circus.
When the production ended, he returned to New York, unemployed, nearly broke, and living at the YMCA on 125th Street. It was there that he got the idea to teach public speaking, and he persuaded the "Y" manager to allow him to instruct a class in return for 80% of the net proceeds. In his first session, he had run out of material; improvising, he suggested that students speak about "something that made them angry", and discovered that the technique made speakers unafraid to address a public audience. From this 1912 debut, the Dale Carnegie Course evolved. Carnegie had tapped into the average American's desire to have more self-confidence, and by 1914, he was earning $500 - the equivalent of nearly $10,000 now - every week.
Perhaps one of Carnegie’s most successful marketing moves was to change the spelling of his last name from “Carnagey” to Carnegie, at a time when Andrew Carnegie (unrelated) was a widely revered and recognized name. By 1916, Dale was able to rent Carnegie Hall itself for a lecture to a packed house. Carnegie's first collection of his writings was Public Speaking: a Practical Course for Business Men (1926), later entitled Public Speaking and Influencing Men in Business (1932). His crowning achievement, however, was when Simon & Schuster published How to Win Friends and Influence People. The book was a bestseller from its debut in 1936, in its 17th printing within a few months. By the time of Carnegie's death, the book had sold five million copies in 31 languages, and there had been 450,000 graduates of his Dale Carnegie Institute. It has been stated in the book that he had critiqued over 150,000 speeches in his participation in the adult education movement of the time. During World War I he served in the U.S. Army.
His first marriage ended in divorce in 1931. On November 5, 1944, in Tulsa, Oklahoma, he married Dorothy Price Vanderpool, who also had been divorced. Vanderpool had two daughters; Rosemary, from her first marriage, and Donna Dale from their marriage together.
Carnegie died at his home in Forest Hills, New York. He was buried in the Belton, Cass County, Missouri, cemetery. The official biography from Dale Carnegie & Associates, Inc. states that he died of Hodgkin's disease on November 1, 1955.
The Dale Carnegie Course
The Dale Carnegie Course is a program for businesses based on Carnegie's teachings used worldwide. It was founded in 1912 and is represented in more than 80 countries. More than 8 million people have completed Dale Carnegie Training.
The course comprises a proprietary process that uses team dynamics and intra-group activities to strengthen interpersonal relations, manage stress and handle fast-changing workplace conditions. Other subjects included are communication, creative problem-solving and focused leadership.
The course is based on a five-phase continuous improvement cycle:
1. Build Greater Self-Confidence
2. Strengthen People Skill
3. Enhance Communication Skill
4. Develop Leadership Skill
5. Improve Our Attitude
Book
* 1913: Public Speaking and Influencing Men In Business. An introduction to public speaking.
* 1932: Lincoln the Unknown. A biography of Abraham Lincoln.
* 1936: How to Win Friends and Influence People. A self-help book about interpersonal relations and how to succeed.
* 1946: Five Minute Biographie
* 1944: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. A self-help book about stress management.
Footnote
1. ^ How To Win Friends And Influence People, by Dale Carnegie, Introduction by Lowell Thomas, p. 9, copyright 1964.
2. ^ Current biography 1941, pp. 138-40.
3. ^ a b Id.
4. ^ http://www.dalecarnegie.com/about_us/history.jsp
5. ^ TIME Magazine, November 14, 1955.
6. ^ How To Win Friends And Influence People, by Dale Carnegie, Introduction by Lowell Thomas, p. 6, copyright 1960.
7. ^ http://www.nytimes.com/learning/general/onthisday/bday/1124.html
8. ^ Staff. "JOSEPHINE CARNEGIE WED; She Becomes Bride of Gerard B. Nolan at Forest Hills", The New York Times, May 30, 1937. Accessed June 18, 2009. "The ceremony was performed by the Rev. J. P. Holland at the home of the bride's uncle, Dale Carnegie, author, in Forest Hills, Queens."
9. ^ Shelokhonov, Steve. Biography for Dale Carnegie at imdb.com
10. ^ http://www.dalecarnegie.com/about_us/history.jsp