Events: To the force! "Post-baby era" sex prescription
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When the house filled with diapers, baby bottles, when the baby this little "devil" occupy all your time, nature seems to disappear in the air. How to save the sex? ...
As a new mother you, every minute was occupied by a child. Sex, it was N years ago now, right? Or you do not have time to enjoy sex is not fun, but it has been entangled in between quality and quantity.
Now, the best-selling book, "She should be a first-come," the author, Dr. Lan Kerner and "how to sex I found that I lost," the writer Heidi
Raykeil the men and a woman two experts, respectively, the position of standing on their gender, to provide solutions for everyone "era of sexual difficulties post-baby" approach.
Question one:
"I want out with him, but saw Manchuang milk stains, diaper, sleepy feeling is not inhibited to hit, what I think is gone. I and the baby together too long, he almost to 'long' on me, I simply do not want to let anyone else touch me. I want to know, I can restore the passion of sex you? "- CW, 28-year-old
She said:
Production has just gone through a lot of women will complain that they become "apathetic", and no longer desire to close contact. Human emotion seems to be a "limit", when its too much time with one thing, other things to attract any interest. In other words, for the new mother is concerned, the attractiveness of sex difference than the sleep more attractive.
My advice is do not, and this "negative emotions" do fight, do not believe that the stars on the weekly "hot mom" propaganda, those reports will only make you more anxious. Better to focus on those "Hot
Moments "up, that is, those likely to cause sex-related things up. Such as a shower, look in the mirror is more plentiful than in the past the body, do you think A hand to touch it? So stretched as far as possible to this association, and increasing the number of associations, you will find that you're still a sexy woman, your "apathy" is just tired from the body, nothing else.
He said:
Also tell your feelings to men, we can help you out, can also help you to strengthen some of the sexy moments. We make women understand that, although we do Mom and Dad, but we men and women, need each other, mutual care. Maybe a woman can not feel the charm of its own, but we can find. Even if a woman bent down to help the child change diapers, we would think that position is very sexy (really!).
Second problem:
"After a day of housework and child care, after fierce fighting, how can I get exhausted the passion and energy to make love? I'm about to exhausted!" - SG, 35-year-old
He said:
We all understand that there will be a woman after having children how "crash", so we should to something simple. As a man, we are willing to take on more sex "work"!
Indeed, the desire to reduce the woman, sex is a difficult "work", even if the man lying there just let us "enjoy." For women, enjoy sex the brain is one of the most important "organ", if my mind was full of diapers, bottles, how about "enjoy" it?
He said:
Yes. We men have to do is to put those chores out of the woman's brain, the start button to love a woman. Those of anxiety, fear should be eliminated in the first game for the love for the position.
She said:
Women should avoid thinking before having sex with children or any matters relating to home, try to clear the brain. If men can help us with the housework, then I think a woman will relieve pressure on a lot of thought.
He said:
Okay, I'll change diapers, clean toilets, wash your socks themselves. And then, or I, to make love to you, let you enjoy.
She said:
This sentence sounds like the former have a play.
Question three:
"After experiencing the pain of childbirth, I seem to no sexual motivation was. Before we make love 5 times every week, and now once a week have been thankful. Even during sex, I do not Aiye secretion, but feel hurt. my body any problems arise? I worry that I never brought back the fun of sex! "- KB, 32-year-old
She said:
Few months after giving birth, our bodies seem to have only one mission - to take care of children. Our life will occur with the birth of the baby upside down. Like to do sports in the past week, regular beauty, all become unreachable, which would dare to expect a sweet love it.
He said:
New mother lost interest in sex for many reasons. Some of the obvious, such as exhaustion, pain, body fat, etc., but some reason it is invisible, such as post-natal depression, mental disorder after giving birth, and sometimes breast-feeding - the secretion of prolactin will reduce sexual desire. Therefore, the post-natal women for the loss of interest in sex is normal, but usually after a period of adjustment, and prenatal women can regain the feeling as good as sex.
She said:
I think the pre-and post-natal sex life compared a stupid game, in particular, is more sexual frequency. Now is the time for attention to the quality of sex, do not struggle this problem several times a week. Willing to try sex is a positive attitude, you will feel better and better.
He said:
For women, lubrication is a necessary prerequisite for sexual pleasure, so you can try to use a lubricant - it is a very common practice, not shame.
Expert advice Q & A
Women's Hospital in Park View Wuzhou Beijing Bai Jie, deputy director of obstetrics
Q: How long after giving birth to ML?
A: Generally speaking, the best time to resume sexual intercourse is 6 to 8 postpartum
Weeks, because the mothers during pregnancy there will be significant physical changes in these states usually takes 6 weeks postpartum in order to gradually recover. Therefore, the mothers by 6 weeks postpartum examination found no abnormalities, and get a doctor's permission before sexual initiation.
Resumed sexual life, the husband's action should be gentle, slow, because the maternal vaginal epithelium is still very weak and tear easily lead to violent action. Moreover, to avoid his wife pregnant again, both spouses must strictly take contraceptive measures to eliminate his wife's anxiety. Husband to his wife's understanding, caring is very important.
Question four:
"How can I tell him to understand, I need more affection and care, but sometimes is not necessarily the sex? Every time I talk about this, we will become a 'speak the same language', and even eventually feel happy . "-
JS, 31-year-old
She said:
I understand how you feel, sometimes I let my partner hold me, he thought I want to make love, put his hands directly on the stroke of my hips! In fact, the hug is a hug, it is a physical contact with the emotional.
He said:
I often say to my wife: "Come, let me hold!" And then gradually evolved into sex. Perhaps the men and women understanding on this issue is a difference.
She said:
I think asking him to just hug hard, he could hold "scale."
He said:
Well, here for all "as long as the gentle embrace," the women make a small suggestion: when you look close contact, need to make further plans, in fact nothing wrong with hugging, kissing the next step is actually a better sex . Of course, you can request to close the "primary stage" extension, or add some content, such as each other a massage, which also makes your body warm.
She said:
For your lover is not difficult to explain how you feel, intimate little tricks like "Useful Phrases", these small actions add up to make you seem a little rusty increasingly intimate relationship.
Five questions:
"I'm around the new mother about sex with me, almost saying their interest in sex once was on. But I am just the opposite, my 'the sexual' even higher! I was not a problem?" - SM, 39-year-old
He said:
You do not have problems, you lucky few! Of course, that your husband also like you have a continuing passion for sex. In fact, many new mothers in addition to the loss of interest in sex outside, a lot of pressure because of novice father, the family began to shift the focus of other reasons "sexual interest" dropped, they also need time to adjust. So if you love encountered a similar situation, you should understand and help him through this period.
She said:
I have also heard of many women after having children, becoming sexual interest high, and their own body more confident, more aware of their body, they would be willing to try new sexual way, which more stimulate their climax. Some women find that their nipples become more sensitive, and this may be due to stimulation caused by breastfeeding.
Question six:
"With kids, I feel unworthy of my husband, we have almost no sex life. Every time he lost his temper because of this reason, it makes me more disgusted, more to escape him. How can we do to break the deadlock ? "- AS, 32-year-old
She said:
This is a terrible vicious cycle. Sex are two of you, this should not be a person's duty or obligation, nor is a person's pay or obtain, it should be your share. As a wife, we must first build up their confidence, suggesting how attractive they are, what a good mother, how much he loved me, these hints make the women realize how much he is eager to get her.
He said:
Yes, men will love the rejection as "rub fire", but at least we know we are angry against the people really care about. Men sex desire is not wrong, he will lead his wife into a better state. Imagine if men do not care, and also "cold", and then even more can not be saved. At least, the man is active, the woman should be able to see this.
She said:
Can you say, we will be very happy, sounds like a man fighting for us.
He said:
I have heard such a statement, after the woman gave birth to a child to fall into the "second love", close to the villain than her husband "much younger", and "full of enticing aromas" . Therefore, men had to take the woman back on to the important mission of the conjugal relation.
She said:
Indeed, Baby's body fragrance much stronger than men! Well, we understand the man more than to be with us in the end, even if you get angry, but also for our good, is a manifestation of love. Convergence about your temper, things get easier to solve. |
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