Events: Oral: Record of older divorced woman's desire
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I told Jen has been maintained with the surface of couples do not go, because he did not say hello to fight was gone. I learned a few months later, he was with another woman with the left. In fact, he need not secretly leave, the disintegration of our marriage was long ...
Well-off family of 80
I like Jen's family background, are born in families of cadres, there are military service experience, an enviable jobs after the work assigned. His authority, I institutions. Nothing more than this a good match. Besides, he was a handsome tall man, such a condition, I really had nothing critical.
We got married. After marriage, he told me, still dedicated to this family, but to treat their work, but always slovenly, which is, let me detests.
"Zhuangshan" caused by divorce
Gradually increase the age of 30 years of age, I finally realized that the previous era of lofty pride has been out of touch with this. People are busy making money, big money, money brings true satisfaction. Suddenly she also wants to do something really small and effective, and my ability to be recognized, and my heart is also very proud of.
In this way, we are husband and wife each have their own busy life trajectories myself are slipping, and we have their own circle of friends, but also vaguely aware of some of his rumors, but too lazy to investigate. Until one occasion, he came back from Guangzhou, bought me two fashion. I put out, even with a living backyard of his female colleagues, "Zhuangshan" again! Some things, do not pierce Fortunately, the surface in the Ming Yi Bai, most people in an embarrassing position. I think this case, and just forget the divorce, he promised to go through a procedure happy. We divorced when the staff asked why I said that he had an affair, he said, "Do not you have a boyfriend?" Staff to see us, do not say anything. Marriage, it is readily departed from. Home, we have a little loss. Because things are from a particularly rapid decisions to resolve, let us somewhat by surprise. With this almost frivolous divorce ending a more absurd: he proposed or else also so over it, to when we did not divorce. I also agree, because if the recognition of divorces, which would bring more trouble, children, family, friends, colleagues deal with the relationship ... ... all these people together is really big head.
A failure of cooperation
In later years, we continue to maintain a person's appearance. Side no one knows we have divorced, but we ourselves knew. His business grew and grew, and I also had my own business circles. Moreover, there is a partner - who.
Where smaller than I, working together completely by accident. We enjoy each other's talent. Just that he needs three production units administered, and he pulled me occupied, this became a partner. I told him, was trusted by the good, clean breast of my real situation, he became the only people who know my divorce. The beginning of our cooperation, just hand her ex-husband has a project, a good prospect, I recommend to who, he agreed without hesitation, that I did not take into account this relationship and the ex-husband.
At this time, I told Jen has been maintained with the surface of couples do not go, because he did not say hello to fight was gone. I learned a few months later, he was with another woman with the left. In fact, he need not secretly go, our marriage had disintegrated, and he can openly find their own happiness.
Who came into my life. He has a marriage, but has with his wife became estranged. Appreciation for his talent, I keep everything to his care, his staying behind the scenes, I believe he will do nicely. But, how do I did not think, where would mess up and get involved in a lawsuit! Not only lost our money into it, the lawsuit is also a drag on for years without result. During that time, he was very depressed. I only try to comfort him, hope he can take heart, but to no avail.
Later, all become more and more demanding, and he pestered me all day, whether I go or do business with people drinking tea with his girlfriend, he would repeatedly call Chaqin. I asked a loss for words, simply embarrassed in front of people to answer.
He never mentioned the divorce, they would not leave me. We are always in my break up, see-saw between his request and good. Aged one day old, really confused, do not spend the rest of his life this way?
Postscript straw OR driftwood
Seoul Garden of Hope raises the question: Is there an age advantage is no longer divorced woman, how to deal with feelings, and his later life?
In fact, a lot of contact with women in similar situations, most of them in a state of uncertainty - perhaps around men, but not necessarily be entrusted to life. Each other or are married, or do not want to remarry, and then, or, simply is holding the play of mind. This state gradually penetrated into their bones, their pessimistic view that, so be it, anyway, can not find a better one. So, after complaining that cynical.
Sometimes, the face of such problems do have a sense of powerlessness. I often work together with their silence, thinking about possible solutions. What truths do not want to say, too aware of their plight. The opportunity to choose is so less, and can only become less and less, even if he wanted to, and no leveraging.
If there is just the straw that they grasp the knowledge that can not help do not want to let go, after all, it is the only thing to make themselves a little bit is coming from. However, the eyes focused on that straw, even a piece of bleached driftwood can easily be missed. In accordance with the law of conservation of energy, such a "driftwood" certainly exist, and the number of many, a single, accountable and willing to accompany you into marriage, men, is the quality of clearance of "driftwood."
Finally, we give a suggestion Seoul Garden of Hope: "You do not say that he will not leave you, so you fed it? In fact, very simple to solve. You ask to marry him, that he disappeared faster than anyone! "
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