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  • diàn shì féi zào jù hěn yòu qù méi cuò， dàn rú guǒ zài xiàn shí shēng huó zhōng shàng yǎn jiù méi nà mó hǎo wán。 jiǎ rú nǐ yīn fēn shǒu ér lèi yǎn pó suō， rán hòu xià xīng qī yòu yīn xīn liàn qíng ér shǒu wǔ zú dǎo， jiāng huì dǎ huài nǐ de míng shēng。 bié rén duì nǐ de 'ài qíng shēng huó méi nà mó gǎn xīng qù， ér qiě yě huì dǎo zhì tā rén wú fǎ fēn gē nǐ de gǎn qíng hé zhuān yè shēng huó。
    Matters of the heart: Soap operas are fun to watch on TV, but they're not fun to live. Your reputation will suffer if you come into the office in tears one day because you broke up with your significant other and then you dance down the hall the next week because you met the love of your life. Your love life isn't as interesting to anyone else as it is to you, and people may be unable to separate your romantic life from your professional one.
  • sī rén shēng huó： dāng mǎ xī dān rèn zhí yè jiè shào suǒ de zhāo mù rén yuán shí， tā pèng dào yī míng yǒng shēng nán wàng de qiú zhí zhě。 zhè wèi nǚ shì yī jìn mén jiù kāi shǐ jiě shì yīn wéi tā méi chē ér tā nán yǒu hé xiǎo hái yòu zhèng zài wài miàn děng tā， suǒ yǐ miàn shì bì xū sù zhàn sù jué。 jiē zhù yòu shuō， tā 'ér zǐ de fù qīn qí shí lìng yòu qí rén。
    The Rubik's Cube that is your personal life: When Marci Diehl worked as a recruiter, she encountered a job seeker who came in to register with the staffing agency -- and she still remembers her over a decade later. The woman came in and explained that her boyfriend was waiting outside with her child because she didn't have a car and that speed was of the essence. Also, her son was not the boyfriend's child.
  • “ tā hái shuō tā nán yǒu bìng bù kuài lè， yīn wéi tā 6 suì dà de 'ér zǐ měi wǎn dū gēn tā men yī qǐ shuì， ér qiě tā men zhǐ jiāo wǎng jǐ gè lǐ bài ér yǐ。 ” mǎ xī huí yì dào。 xiǎng dāng rán 'ěr， jiè shào suǒ wéi zhǎo dào yī gè kě yǐ 'ān dùn tā de zhí wèi ér dà fèi kǔ xīn， yīn wéi tā shì yī wèi bù dǒng rú hé cáng qǐ sī rén xiǎng fǎ de gāo fēng xiǎn gù yuán
    "Somehow in this tale about the boyfriend, she told us that the boyfriend was not a happy camper, because her 6 year old slept with them every night -- and they'd only been going together for a few weeks, " Diehl remembers. Naturally, the agency had a difficult time placing her because she was a risky employee who didn't know when to keep her thoughts to herself.
  • zuì hòu . bù yǎ yán lùn： yǐng jí 「 bàn gōng shì 」 zhōng yòu yī jí， zhùjué mài kè shǐ kǎo tè yīn bù duàn chóngfù chōng mǎn zhǒng zú qí shì de yán lùn yǔ zàng huà ér rě huò shàng shēn。 jù zhōng yǎn yuán yīn jiān ruì、 dà dǎn hé mào fàn xìng de huà yǔ ér fù chū dài jià， dàn nǐ què huì yīn cǐ bèi chǎo
    Last. Your Chris Rock routine: In an episode of "The Office, " Michael Scott gets in trouble for repeating, verbatim, a Chris Rock stand-up routine full of racially charged jokes and cuss words. Comedians get paid to be edgy, daring and even offensive. You get fired for it.
  • yào yǔ kǒng jù dǒu zhēng， shǒu xiān yào rèn shí kǒng jù。 yào jì zhù tóu téng、 wèi téng、 shī mián hé xīn tiào jiā sù dōushì jiāo lǜ de zhèng zhuàng。 má shěng dà xué yī xué yuàn xīn shén guàn zhù yán jiū zhōng xīn zhí xíng zhù rèn SakiSantorelli shuō， yīnggāi tōng guò shuō chū lái， shèn zhì tōng guò shuō chū“ wǒ hài pà zhè gè”， lái yǒng gǎn dì miàn duì zhè zhǒng gǎn jué。 chéng rèn jiāo lǜ kě yǐ shǐ wǒ men biàn dé gèng jī jí、 gèng jiān qiáng， yīn ér yě jiù gèng néng duì fù tā。
    The first step toward combating fear is identifying it. Keep in mind that headaches, stomachaches, sleeplessness and rapid heartbeat are all symptoms of anxiety. Confront the emotion head-on by naming it, even saying, "I feel fear about this, " says Saki Santorelli, executive director of the University of Massachusetts Medical School's Center for Mindfulness. Acknowledging anxiety makes us less passive, less vulnerable and, as a result, more able to cope.
  • jiǎn qīng yā lì zuì yòu xiào de bàn fǎ zhī yī jiù shì jiāng zhù yì lì jí zhōng dào wǒ men kě yǐ yòu xiào kòng zhì de dōng xī shàng －－ wǒ men zì jǐ de hū xī。 zài tóu nǎo－ shēn tǐ yī xué yuàn， cān jiā zhě tōng guò hū qì shí fǎn fù qīng shēng mò niàn yī gè dān cí（ rèn hé dān cí， kě yǐ shì "om" huò "HailMary"）， lái dá dào yī gè“ fàng sōng de fǎn yìng”。 tōng guò xǔ duō cì yán jiū， Benson fā xiàn gāi liàn xí kě yǐ shǐ cān jiā zhě xuè yā jiàng dī， hū xī biàn huǎn， cóng ér dá dào quán shēn de píng jìng。
    One of the most efficient ways to reduce stress is to focus inward on one thing we can effectively control: our own breath. At the Mind/Body Medical Institute, participants elicit a "relaxation response, " repeating a word - anything from "om" to "Hail Mary"--silently as they exhale. In numerous studies, Benson has found that the practice leads to lower blood pressure, slower breathing and an overall calm.
  • zuì jìn， Wisconsin－ Madison dà xué de RichardDavidson fā xiàn yóu xīn shén guàn zhù yán jiū zhōng xīn shǒu chuàng de yī zhǒng míng xiǎng hū xī fǎ néng gòu duì dà nǎo chǎn shēng yǐng xiǎng。 zài yī gè xiǎo fàn wéi jìn xíng bìng jí jiāng fā biǎo de yán jiū zhōng， Davidson duì yī jiā shēng wù jì shù gōng sī de 25 míng yuán gōng de dà nǎo jìn xíng liǎo chéng xiàng， zhè xiē yuán gōng měi zhōu liàn xí míng xiǎng 6 tiān， gòng liàn xí liǎo 8 zhōu。 tā fā xiàn tā men dà nǎo 'é yè qián bù de zuǒ cè jī huó de qíng kuàng yòu suǒ zēng jiā， ér zhè yī bù wèi yǔ jiào dī de jiāo lǜ shuǐ píng、 jī jí de qíng xù hé dà nǎo kǒng jù zhōng xīn biǎn táo hé de yì zhì xiāng guān。
    Richard Davidson at the University of Wisconsin-Madison recently found that a form of meditative breathing pioneered at the Center for Mindfulness can affect the brain. In a small, soon-to-be-published study, Davidson took brain images of 25 members of a biotech firm who practiced meditation six days a week for eight weeks. He found increased activation in the left side of the prefrontal part of the brain, an area associated with lower anxiety, positive emotion and inhibition of the amygdala, the brain's fear center.
  • rú guǒ nǐ wú fǎ zuò dào bǎo chí yī zhǒng zī shì zuò 5 fēn zhōng yǐ shàng， nà me nǐ kě yǐ shì yī shì yú gā。《 yú gā xué bào》 yī xué biān ji TimothyMcCall bó shì shuō， jí zhōng zhù yì lì yú bù tóng zī tài de shēn tǐ de fù zá zhī chù kě yǐ pò shǐ nǐ guò lǜ diào nà xiē“ rú cí dài juàn yī bān wú xiū zhǐ de zhàn chàn hé kǒng jù”， cóng ér shǐ nǐ huí dào xiàn shí zhōng lái。 zhè yàng， nǐ jiù kāi shǐ cóng nǎo hǎi zhōng qīng chú duì wèi lái de dān xīn。
    If sitting in one position for more than five minutes sounds impossible, you might try yoga. Concentrating on the physical intricacies of different poses forces you to filter out the "endless tape loops of chatter and fear, " says Dr. Timothy McCall, medical editor of Yoga Journal, allowing you to be present in the moment. In so doing, you begin to clear the mind of future worries.
  • kē xué jiā fā xiàn chè dǐ bù kǎo lǜ zhè xiē wèn tí hěn yòu bāng zhù。 mài 'ā mì dà xué chù jué yán jiū suǒ suǒ cháng TiffanyField zài duì yóu yú 'ān dé lǔ jù fēng ér shòu dào xīn lǐ chuāngshāng de 60 míng zài xiào 'ér tóng de yán jiū zhōng fā xiàn， lián xù yī gè yuè、 měi zhōu jiē shòu liǎng cì 30 fēn zhōng 'àn mó de hái zǐ qí yōu yù qíng kuàng yòu suǒ xià jiàng， ér nà xiē kàn fàng sōng nèi róng de lù xiàng piàn de hái zǐ zé méi yòu shénme gǎi guān。 zuò wéi rén de yā lì biāo jì de pí zhì chún shuǐ píng zài jiē shòu 'àn mó de yī zǔ zhōng yě chū xiàn liǎo xiāng dāng chéng dù de xià jiàng。 rú guǒ nǐ bù xǐ huān 'àn mó， nà yě kě yǐ chū qù hǎohǎo zǒu yī zǒu、 yóu yóu yǒng huò qí qí chē。 duàn liàn bù jǐn yòu lì yú bǎo chí shēn tǐ jiàn kāng， ér qiě néng jiǎn shǎo jiāo lǜ hé yōu yù。
    Scientists are finding that it can help to get outside your head completely. In a study of 60 schoolchildren traumatized by Hurricane Andrew, Tiffany Field, director of the University of Miami's Touch Research Institute, found that depression dropped in kids who received 30 minutes of massage twice a week for a month， kids who watched a relaxing video showed no improvement. And cortisol levels, the body's marker for stress, declined significantly in the massage group. If massage isn't your thing, go for a vigorous walk, swim or bike ride. Exercise is not only good at keeping you fit， it reduces anxiety and depression, too.
  • yán jiū zhě men shuō， jìn guǎn zuò qǐ lái hěn nán， dàn shì zài duō shì zhī qiū， rén men xū yào cóng shēng huó de zuì jiǎn dān de kuài lè zhōng huò qǔ 'ān wèi。 zài Rochester dà xué yī xué yuàn jìn xíng de yī cì xiǎo fàn wéi diào chá zhōng， O.J.Sahler bó shì fā xiàn zài gǔ suǐ yí zhí bìng rén zhōng， nà xiē tīng yīnyuè de fǎn yìng gǎn dào de téng tòng hé 'ěxīn chéng dù bǐ jiào qīng， ér qiě tā men yí zhí de gǔ suǐ yě gèng zǎo jiù kāi shǐ gōng zuò。 lìng wài， xiào kě néng què shí shì liáng yào。 LomaLinda dà xué gōng gòng wèi shēng xué yuàn de LeeBerk bó shì fā xiàn yī zǔ kàn liǎo yī xiǎo shí xǐ jù lù xiàng de xué shēng qí shèn shàng xiàn sù hé pí zhì chún shuǐ píng dū chū xiàn liǎo xiǎn zhù xià jiàng。“ rú guǒ nǐ fēi cháng hài pà，” Berk shuō，“ nà jiù kàn xiǎo chǒu biǎo yǎn bā。” zhè cái shì zhí dé wǒ men hǎohǎo kǎo lǜ de dōng xī。
    It may be difficult, but in troubled times, researchers say, people need to take comfort from life' s simplest pleasures.In a small study at the University of Rochester School of Medicine, Dr. O. J. Sahler found that bone-marrow transplant patients who listened to music reported less pain and nausea, and their transplants took less time to become functional. And, yes, laughter may be good medicine, too. Dr. Lee Berk, of the Loma Linda University School of Public Health, discovered that a group of students who watched a comic video for an hour had marked reductions in epinephrine and cortisol levels. "If fear is too great, " says Berk, "send in the clowns." Now that's something we can all meditate on.
  • wǒ jìn lì 'ér wéi。
    I'll try my best.
  • nǐ zuì hǎo sān sī 'ér hòu xíng。
    You'd better look before you leap.
  • xué 'ér bù sī zé wǎng。
    It is no use learning without thinking.
  • zhè zhǐ shì wèile qìng zhù wǒ de shēng rì ér jǔ xíng de wǎn huì。
    It's only a party in honor of my birthday.
  • tā men jiān chí liú xià lái， ér bù yuàn yì zǒu
    They insisted on staying rather than going.
  • jiù zài míng tiān ( ér bù shì zài bié de mǒu yī tiān ) tā men yào kāi huì。
    It is tomorrow that they will have a meeting.
  • tā men wéi kǎo shì jié shù liǎo ér gāo xīng。
    They were glad of the examination being over.
  • tā men wéi shuí yīnggāi fù kuǎn ér zhēng lùn bù xiū。
    They are arguing over who should pay the bill.
  • rán ér ， sū shān què hái méi yòu jué dìng。
    However, Susan has not really made up her mind yet.
  • nǐ yīnggāi shì yǐ kào nǐ zì jǐ， ér bù zú bié rén。
    You should always depend on yourself rather than someone else.
  • xǔ duō rén xǐ huān zhù zài nóng cūn ér bù xǐ huān zhù zài chéng shì。
    Many people prefer living in the country to living in the town.
  • sān sī 'ér hòu xíng
    Look before you leap.
  • bù zhàn 'ér qū rén zhī bīng
    The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.
  • zhì zhī sǐ dì 'ér hòu shēng
    Put the troops in death ground and they will live.
  • liàng lì 'ér xíng
    to estimate one's strangth before acting.
  • yáng cháng 'ér qù
    to stride away without looking back.
  • chōng kǒu 'ér chū
    to blurt out without thinking.
  • yán 'ér yòu xìn
    to be as good as one's words.
  • pò mén 'ér rù
    to break into a house. to force one's way into a house.
  • tóng rì 'ér yǔ
    to mention in equal terms.
  • chéng xū 'ér rù
    to gain advantage over sb. through his inattention.
  • gǎn nù 'ér bù gǎn yán
    angry but not daring to speak out.