儿大不由娘

Explanation: By: obedient, submissive. Children grown up, not up to the parents call the shots 　　Usage: As object, attribute, clause; that her children 　　Source: Qing Zhou student "Xingshi" 89 back: "Do not say I was his Jinzi, I'm his mother, his 'big children not help your mother,' I do not have control of him." 　　Examples: ~, I have no way out Thesaurus:  Child large Cannot but father